Here’s the deal: you and your boyfriend -- or rather, ex boyfriend have parted ways. But now it seems, despite some of his faults and his flaws, that you really want him back in your life anyway. The thing is: he is showing you no sign that he wants to get back into your good graces. And maybe… just maybe, he seems to be enjoying his freedom a lot more than you care to admit. So now you are trying to find ways on how to make your ex-boyfriend want you back. If you want some simple but effective tips, here are some things you ought to consider.
1. Take a breather. Let’s just say that running after him whenever he walks, or suddenly popping up in his place with a huge batch of “Let’s get back together” cookies, or going to the same restaurant you know he will be dining (and flirting excessively with your own stooge date) are very transparent, desperate and well… cheap ploys on how to win back an ex-boyfriend. Needless to say, these things may look hilarious in movies, but you should never do these in real life.
Instead of fretting over when and where you should see him again, just take this time out to take a breather from your relationship. Try to find other things to occupy your mind. Take up a new hobby or a new sport. Visit places you have always wanted to go to. Meet new people and get together with old friends. Or better yet, go to the salon and get a new spunky look!
These recreational activities will give you the time to see what you may be missing when you were still with him. At the same time, this will give your anger, or your disappointment or whatever ill feelings you may be harboring towards your ex lessen and hopefully, dissipate. After all, you cannot make him want you back if your first opening salvo is a list of the things you have been ranting about him for ages.
2. It is important to remember that relationships fail because there is a breakdown of communication between the two parties involved. And that means that neither you, nor your ex alone can be blamed for the split up. You will always find faults in him, as he with you. But couples with lasting relationships either forgive each others’ faults or try to find ways of working around these that will satisfy both parties. It is essential therefore for you try to figure out how you can overcome your own perceived shortcomings first, before you try tackling his.
3. Make the first move. Some guys can be pushy, especially if they are determined to get you back. But some guys can be traumatized with the split that they succumb to a somnambulistic trance-like existence. It is therefore up to you to make the first move.
However, make sure that you do this gently and with great dignity. The last thing you want is for your ex boyfriend to go running off in the opposite direction. A rueful smile might do for starters. A small wave from across the street or simply acknowledging his presence when you are in the same room will also work fine. If he still doesn’t get the hint, you might want to offer the first “Hello,” or “So, how have you been?”
This will give out signals that you are ready to talk and listen to him (and make sure you do.) If he really wants to get back with you, he will call you soon enough.
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Dec 4, 2009
3 Simple But Amazing Ways to Make Him Want You Back
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